Biz Bomb – Stop Waiting for Confidence to Show Up
Welcome to your Biz Bomb episode of the 360 Health Biz Podcast where we blow your mind with a juicy topic.
Today we are talking about confidence. Putting yourself out there online in front of a bunch of strangers, can bring up a lot of insecurity and self-worth issues. And if you’re wondering how you can overcome this feeling then you will definitely find benefit to listening to this episode.
Here’s the thing – confidence is the last thing to happen when it comes to learning something new. When you're brand new to growing your business and showing up online, you probably aren't going to have confidence. Just like that old saying practice makes perfect, the more you do something, the more confidence you’ll get in doing it.
When it comes to building an online business, you’ re not going to feel confident (at first) because it's new. And guess what? This happens to ALL of us! Go to someone’s YouTube page that you look up to or their Instagram or even their first blog. If you look at their first few posts, we guarantee they are probably not very good. Heck, check out Kendra’s YouTube videos from when she started and you’ll see how her confident level has changed since then.
Tune in to hear Kendra’s real life examples of how her practice made go from timid to confident!
Hey guys, what's up? Welcome to your Biz Bomb episode of the 360 Health Biz Podcast and today we're going to talk about something that I know you might be lacking. Confidence. I know a lot of you are struggling with confidence. The truth is, putting yourself online, out to the world, to a bunch of strangers, people you can't even physically see or touch is weird, and it can bring up a lot of insecurity, a lot of self worth issues. It can trigger that insecure high school girl in you, and a lot of us are wondering, "Well, how can I get more confidence? How can I get the confidence to put myself out on social media, to show up online, to show up on Facebook live or Instagram live." Or whatever it is. You're all wondering, "Well, what do I do to get the confidence?"
Now a big mistake that I see a lot of people make in terms of trying to gain confidence is they keep putting off showing up online, trying to wait for the confidence. So they're like, "Well, maybe I'll feel more confident after I take this other functional health course." Or maybe they'll say something like, "Well, I'll probably feel more confident on video once I get a professional video setup or whatever" So there's always something that you need or something that you want to finish and that will help you get the confidence. Not true.
Okay. So this is the thing, guys. Confidence is the last thing to happen when it comes to learning something new. It's always the last thing to happen. So in the beginning, when you're brand new to growing your business and showing up online, showing up on video, podcasting, whatever it is, you aren't going to have confidence. That confidence is just not going to be there at all. So what do you do? Because the only thing that's going to give you confidence is actually doing the thing. Unfortunately, I have no simple answer for you other than, "[inaudible 00:02:15] that sexy, get out there and do the fucking thing." The more you do it, the more you do something over and over and over and repeat something, the more confident you will feel. But confidence still will be the last thing to happen.
Let's just use soccer as an example. So let's say that I am brand new to playing soccer. I've never played soccer before, but I really want to learn how to do it. How am I going to feel confident at playing soccer? Is it going to be going and getting those super fancy soccer cleats or some better shin pads or investing in that flashy jersey? Of course not. None of those things matter. The cleats aren't going to teach me how to play soccer, that jersey is not going to do anything, and those shin pads aren't really going to do shit in terms of helping me learn how to play soccer. The only thing that is going to make me confident in playing soccer is showing up for soccer practices and going for it over and over and over again. And practice, practice, practice.
So same shit guys. When it comes to building an online business, when you're new to this, you are not going to feel confident because it's new and you're probably not even going to like it that much because you're not going to feel good at it. You're going to be like, "I'm really bad at this. I'm bad at social media. I'm bad on video." But these things aren't learned. They're not things we were born with.
You guys may have seen me on video and you might be like, "Wow, Kendra is so good on video. She can just talk and talk and talk. She can just show up and do her thing on video." This was not something I was born with, even though maybe it seems like I'm so good at it, but the thing is guys, I've been showing up on video since 2015, 2016 and I have probably showed up on video at least once a week for, what's that? Four years? It's a lot of videos. You can actually go to my Facebook page, it's Kendra Perry inc, and go to the videos tab and actually scroll down to the very bottom and look at some of those early videos and you will see that I was not confident and those videos look very different.
I remember the first time that I went live on Periscope, I don't know if you remember Periscope and maybe I'm dating myself, but this was a livestream app from before Facebook live was even available. I remember being so nervous and writing out this whole script and I can barely concentrate all day because I had butterflies in my stomach and I was just so nervous to go live on Periscope. It was such a crazy experience. When I did it, I felt so proud of myself, and I felt like that for a while. These days I can just show up on live video and talk about whatever because I;ve done it so many times. So if you truly want to feel confident showing up online, on social media, on Instagram Stories, on video, on your podcast, you have to do the thing and you have to repeat it and do it over and over and over again, and then the confidence will come.
So you will not feel confident until you do the thing so the advice I want to give you is just to keep doing it and, yes, it's going to feel uncomfortable, but if you keep doing it and you keep practicing it and you keep showing up, one day you're going to get on there, on social media, on Instagram Stories, and you're going to feel like, "I got this." And it will happen, but only if you keep showing up.
All right. I hope you found this episode helpful. This is our Biz Bomb series for those of you who are new. So every other week we post a quick tip episode to give you a super valuable business bomb tip. If you like this episode and you're listening on your iPhone right now, or your Android, make sure to screenshot the episode and share it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, Kendra Perry Inc or you can take us, 360 Health Biz Podcast, and just let us know what were your biggest take homes? What did you learn? And we'll be happy to connect with you. Have a fantastic week and we will see you next week with one of our full episodes.